Posts by Fed Up

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Bad Dates?

by simplesally in

ran across these experiences and thought they were funny:monica, 40, knew she wasn't interested in a guy she met at a speed dating event by the end of the date.

"he insisted twice on cracking my back after our goodbye hug," she says, noting she declined his offer for a back adjustment and a second date.

sheryl, 32, was thrilled when a hunky jock asked her out to a dinner theater.

Fed Up

This is more of a "don't let this happen to you" scenerio, no offense to my "date" for the evening...

I had just gotten divorced from my first husband and went up north to visit a friend. She was also recently divorced and staying with her brother and sister-in-law. They lived in a small rural town and it was hard to find their house, so I met her at the local restaurant in town, and followed her to her brother's house, where I was supposed to spend the night.

We went out dancing and she hit it off with a guy. He had a buddy with him and after the bar closed we all went to the local Denny's. His "buddy" was all of 18, so we started playing cards, while my friend and his were "getting to know each other". At 3 am, the Denny's announced they were closing, and we looked around and our friends were no where to be found! Apparently, they had decided to sneak off and spend the night together!

The guy I was with didn't have a way home and so I offered to drive him...and suddenly realized I had a problem! I hadn't expected my friend to take off so I hadn't written down her brother's address! We drove around looking for the house, but couldn't find it, and there were no stations or ANYTHING else opened in that town, and I was running out of gas! There was no choice but to go to his house...he still lived at HOME, but we got away with sneaking quietly into his room, and I slept on the floor. Without waking him, I also then tried sneaking out just as quietly at 7am, only to run right into his FAMILY sitting around the breakfast table! From the look of shock on their faces, I could tell how BAD I looked to them--but regardless, his mom graciously asked if I would like some coffee! I was too embarrassed and couldn't say a single word--I just ran out of the house as fast as I could!

NO, never saw that guy again, I never even knew him name!

13

i think i'm screwed

by georgefoster in

when i got married, my wife was an inactive baptized jw who promised me that she was done with it forever.

i became daddy to her two children, ages 2 and 3. a few months after we got married, i walked in on her meeting with two jw elders.

they tried to convince me that it was a great, harmless thing for her to be involved in.

Fed Up

I think most of the others here have given you some good ideas.

I also think that since your wife quit her job, she's got too much free time on her hands and the JWs are taking advantage of that fact. In essense, you are working your ass off to support and enable the Jehovah Witness Organization so they can exploit your wife and divert her from your marriage--and by her not having to work, you are actually HELPING her to continue this behavior!

Being as she is not using her free time in the manner, or spirit intended or AGREED to, as Head of YOUR Household, I think you should INSIST she return to work, full-time. If she says "no", wouldn't that be disrespecting her marriage vows and your status as Head of the Household? And shouldn't she be subject to being DISFELLOWSHIPPED for that? Yeah, I think so! I'd bring that point up to the elders there! And if they ignore that (which I'm sure they will) then it only proves they are going against the requirements of their OWN religious beliefs, proving their own hypocriscy!

Of course, if you DO decide to get a divorce, she'll probably HAVE to go back to work, and that would probably also solve the problem!

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Protecting your kids

by Lehaa in

just saw a great news report on how to protect you kids from predators.. it all revolves around a code word.. you and your kids agree on one.

if someone different is to pick your kids up you give then the code word.

if they don't know the word then the kids know that you did not send them.

Fed Up

I'm paranoid about my kids being kidnapped. I know we can microchip our animals, wish we could our kids.
Thinking of getting their DNA taken and stored just in case they do they can be easily identified.

There are several organizations which have put together kits for taking and storing samples of your children's DNA, and registry to the national database--we are members of our local organization, received a kit for free and have our grandson registered and DNA stored...

As far as microchipping children though, aren't you a little worried about the whole "666" and bearing the mark of the beast thing?

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The hypocrites went back home! How lovely!

by Fed Up in

not long ago i posted expressing my annoyance that my husband's parents--as the good jehovah's witness elders that they are, went up north for a month-long with with my husband's disfellowshipped ex-wife!

they apparently were only there for a week and went back home!

not quite that month long visit that i heard was planned.... gee?

Fed Up

atilla

MY parents and MY family are NOT, and never have been JWs and as a member of OUR family, they support ME--as does my husband. I can not even conceive of anyone in my family supporting a religion which tried to come between any one of our family members. The religion, as well as anyone else, would be history, long before any effective damage could be done to OUR relationship(s).

My husband does not understand what is wrong with his parents and recently wrote to his dad--in which he essentially told his dad that it is his, and his mother's attitude which has kept him from having any desire to go back to the kingdom hall and trying to get reinstated after being disfellowshipped these past 20 years. If nothing else, their most recent backstabbing performance of betraying him with his EX-WIFE, has had the POSITIVE effect of FINALLY making my husband see that this is a FALSE relgion, and he no longer believes that he is going to HELL simply because he is NOT a witness!

So for me, (and him) this has actually been a GOOD thing! Best of luck with your family.

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Hi Lows for the week.

by Lehaa in

ok new idea, was thinking of sharting a hi low post at the end of every week.. the idea came from the move "the story of us" starring bruce willis and michelle pfeiffer.. for all who have not seen the movie, at the end of every day they sit at the dinner table with there kids and all have to tell the rest on the family the high (good thing that happened for the day) and their low ( bad or dissapointing thing that happened for the week).

it can bee as silly or as serious as you want.. just and idea, will trial it for a few weeks and see how it goes.. .

my high: it's now school holidays here, have my kids home for 2 weeks, no more early starts and fighting to get the kids into bed on time.

Fed Up

High for the week My husband's JW parents went back home, and did NOT visit with his EX WIFE for the entire week as they originally intended, and now, they are NOT talking to us!

Low for the week....there were no lows!

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New Nail Polish!

by patio34 in

i had quit wearing nail polish because it chips, etc.

but i happened to buy revlon's new "10-day system" for $5.99 for two bottles: the color and the top coat.. i did a french manicure and it has lasted with nary a chip or peel for 7 days now!

and i've scrubbed stuff, done dishes, washed my car and on & on it lasts!.

Fed Up

Sounds good! I'll get some tonight!

Cover girl makes a lipstick that also comes in as a duo--lipcolor and gloss--and it really does last all day!

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Did Being a JW Make You a Bully VICTIM in SCHOOL?

by Smoldering Wick in

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i read this article in the montreal gazette that talked about a young witness kid being bullied in school.

it made me think back to all the times i was treated differently in school for being a jehovah's witness.

i grew up in a predominately mexican community and went to public school there from 1st-12th grade as a jw.

Fed Up

Reaching 'breaking point' and punching one of the bullies before throwing him head-first against the blackboard (in the middle of a lesson!) did put a stop to it. Who says violence never works?

The saying (as I remember it) is, "violence never solved anything", well, of course it does and here's proof! Way to go Simon!

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The hypocrites went back home! How lovely!

by Fed Up in

not long ago i posted expressing my annoyance that my husband's parents--as the good jehovah's witness elders that they are, went up north for a month-long with with my husband's disfellowshipped ex-wife!

they apparently were only there for a week and went back home!

not quite that month long visit that i heard was planned.... gee?

Fed Up

Oh, and I have to go find my husband some brand NEW parents over at the local retirement home now...

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The hypocrites went back home! How lovely!

by Fed Up in

not long ago i posted expressing my annoyance that my husband's parents--as the good jehovah's witness elders that they are, went up north for a month-long with with my husband's disfellowshipped ex-wife!

they apparently were only there for a week and went back home!

not quite that month long visit that i heard was planned.... gee?

Fed Up

Not long ago I posted expressing my annoyance that my husband's parents--as the GOOD Jehovah's Witness ELDERS that they are, went up north for a month-long with with my husband's DISFELLOWSHIPPED EX-WIFE!

They apparently were only there for a week and went back home! Not quite that MONTH long visit that I heard was planned...

Gee? I wonder if they, or their JW FRIENDS read this board? Or any of the MANY OTHER sites I posted my story about this on the internet? Or could it possibly have anything to do with the letter I wrote to his ex-wife's MOM, who is ALSO a PRACTICING JW, and doesn't especially appreciate their CONTINUING VERY CLOSE relationship with HER daughter? Or could it maybe have something to do with my visit to that same very SMALL town, where, carefully avoiding THEM, I told my story to EVERYONE at my former place of business, otherwise known as "gossip central"?

And how does my husband feel about this? OH! Well, THEY apparently didn't stand up for HIM when he was disfellowshipped by their congregation for DRINKING...but they felt BAD for his ex-wife when SHE got disfellowshipped for committing ADULTERY--on HIM--with his BEST FRIEND! Although he told me he would not want to be the one responsible, he told me he wouldn't exactly feel BAD if they now found THEMSELVES disfellowshipped!

Guess I'll never find out, because now, THEY'RE not talking to US!

OH! And I have NO DOUBT that THEY now think that I'M the one who did something WRONG! Oh, not them! I'm sure they justify their actions as being RIGHTEOUS, after all, THEY'RE Jehovah's Witnesses!

I have to go to laugh now...

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Finally!!! Run in with JWs...

by Tashawaa in

i've lived here for about 1 1/2 years and haven't seen a single jw.

i read all the posts where there have been run-ins, people called on, elders talked to, etc.

and couldn't hardly wait for my turn.

Fed Up

Lovely story,

I've always considered one of the biggest "perks" of having married my disfellowshipped JW husband is that since then, NO JWS have come knocking at our door!